Never Get Between a Girl & Her Purse

What is a safe neighbourhood these days? Is there even such a thing anymore? What’s a girl gotta do these days just to make it home safely? Suddenly it seems that the criminals in the Greater Toronto Area are becoming a little more brazen.

My girlfriend and her cousin were walking the short distance home after getting off at their bus stop. They decided to cut through the park in the quiet Steeles & Dufferin subdivision. After hearing a rustling of leaves and sensing that someone was behind them on the dimly lit path, my friend found herself having to fend off a man who was trying to grab her purse. With a surge of adrenalin and in a fit of anger, she decided that “no man was going to leave her with the nightmare of having to replace credit cards, ID, cash and a cellphone” and she fought him off, screaming at him and then kicking him “where it counts”. When he quickly discovered that she wasn’t going to let this go without a fight, he gave up and ran off. My friend escaped that mugging, clearly shaken but unharmed (and she still had her purse).

When the police arrived to take her statement, they gave some tips of advice that are very important, especially for women. We’ve heard these tips before, but it never hurts to be reminded especially when something like this happens to someone you know.

1) Never walk through a dimly lit park (even if you’re familiar with the area).
2) Always walk in pairs.
3) Scream like all hell if someone attacks you.

So to the sick bastard out there who probably can’t walk today, THAT is what happens when you try to get in between a girl and her purse! Think about that before you try to pull that on the next unsuspecting girl that walks by!

8 Comments so far

  1. Tanya (unregistered) on October 31st, 2005 @ 9:47 pm

    Your friend is very lucky. Her life is worth more than her cash, id and cellphone. It is generally stupid to put your life at risk when an attacker wants your stuff (which can be replaced). Unfortunately what they don’t teach in self-defense classes is for the most part a determined man can overpower most women – while you might get lucky with a physical counterattack (mostly through the element of surprise) if there’s anyway of avoiding trying to fight back – take it!

  2. judy (unregistered) on October 31st, 2005 @ 10:20 pm

    while the practical advice would be to forget the purse and run for your life that only looks good on paper. however, its hard to determine what takes over when you find yourself in that situation. i’m just glad that the creep didn’t have a gun or a knife (or if he did that he didn’t use it) and that my friend is safe. good for her!

  3. judy (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 11:18 am

    just curious tanya, what do you THINK you would do if, heaven forbid, you ever find yourself in a similar situation?

  4. Sj (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 1:19 pm

    Hell..I don’t know what I would do as well.

    In many ways you really can’t until it has happened..and then you can only reflect on why you did what you did after it has happened.

    A couple (guy and girl armed with a knife) jumped my brother at Brimley and Finch a few years ago. They demanded his wallet and cellphone (which he didn’t have..they just thought about asking for one I suppose) and he gave it to them. The guy then noticed my brother’s CD Player and decided to ask for that too. You know..for some reason at that point he just decided ‘Hell no!’ and he screamed ‘NO’ at them. Guess what they did? They ran off so fast..

    Who knows? Who?

  5. Tanya (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 1:25 pm

    I think that I would have to make a snap decision on what seemed best given the situation. But I would not risk personal injury if all someone wanted was stuff. Not every attacker will give up when someone fights back.

  6. shy (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 7:26 pm


    while i agree with you that it is better to give up the material goods rather then risking one’s safety, i also agree strongly with judy that in such a situation, one never truly knows what natural defense mechanisms will come through.

    take it a psychology major, i’ve done enough studies and paperwork to know that while you may label such behaviour as ‘stupid’, enough psychologists out there will say that this type of behaviour is actually very natural and normal.

    it’s much more harder to think logically then you may realize, when put in a tough situation such as this. even still, while you might be true to your words in NOT fighting back, that does not mean it is easy for others.

    in conclusion, i think using the word ‘stupid’ here further victimizes the victim on a very unhealthy level. one which is non-progressive and perhaps even harmful to a person’s mental well being, thereby not allowing them to heal well from such a traumatic situation.

  7. Tanya (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 11:22 pm

    Sorry, didn’t mean to say that the victim was stupid. Obviously they did what felt natural to them in that situation. I got the impression Judy was trying to recommend this technique to others if faced with a similar situation, which I thought was risky in general. Obviously it was good that it worked out well for Judy’s friend.

  8. shy (unregistered) on November 5th, 2005 @ 4:33 pm

    tanya – you sure have a track record for making up assumptions and putting words into people’s mouths…

    i just re-read judy’s entry. she was merely cheering on a friend as this is an account of a personal experience. we’re not journalists here. just bloggers.

    no where did she indicate that this was a technique others should try out.

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